In this blog, I'm going to introduce you to the one and only technique you will need to engage in a meaningful conversation with yourself about why you eat too much.
Here it is:
You simply have to pause every time you recognize you are about to enter an emotional eating episode. The first part of the technique is to recognize an emotional eating episode. The second part is to ask yourself why you want to eat too much at that particular moment. That is something you can observe and discover. Not why you want to eat in general, but why you want to eat at that critical moment.
In a previous blog I told you how to recognize the beginning of an emotional eating episode. Here is what I said about...
The 3 Signs
The first sign is the overpowering urge to binge. It is a sure sign that you want to shut off your mind with food.
The second is an intense hunger when you know the hunger is not for food (you may have just finished a meal and are already physically full). This is a sure sign that you are feeling empty about something and are "emotionally" hungry.
The third is having a mind filled with thoughts about food or worries about weight. These are space-occupying mental entities that distract you from thinking about what is really bothering you in life. These are boring repetitive thoughts that weigh down your mind. (There are additional signs, and if you want more, take the quiz on emotional eating on the shrinkyourself.com site.)
Once you spot an emotional eating episode and pause for a moment to reflect, you begin to use your thinking ability, the skill you need to understand yourself and to make decisions about the conduct of your life. If you never pause, the emotional eating habit continues to be carried on by a lower level of your mind. When you pause and ask yourself, "Why am I doing this?", you are using the best part of your mind, that part of your divided self that wants to get rid of the unhealthy eating pattern.
A little help
But here's where you need a little help. You can get lost in the many "whys" that you find. You may find that on Monday you need to eat too much because you're bored, while on Tuesday you eat too much at the office because you had a spat with a co-worker, while on Wednesday you felt ignored by your husband, and so on.
Your observation brings you to the first level of your journey of understanding -- the first why.
You simply discovered that you eat to get rid of uncomfortable and painful feelings. You probably already know that, but what you don't know what to do about it because you don't understand fully what else you could do. So now the answer to the why question is a little bit richer. You need to get rid of uncomfortable feelings because you do not know what else to do with those feelings, and food gives you relief and a temporary distraction.
A better way to deal
That's good but you still have to go on and ask yourself why, as a fully grown adult, you can't find a better way of dealing with these feelings other than to eat too much? If you are able to get this far in your thinking you will notice that you begin to feel helpless and powerless. That's a truly lousy state of mind, and you will want to run away from it with more food. Try not to, but even if you do, take note of the fact that you have tasted the deep part of the feeling that you want to run away from.
That's as far as you need to go this week. You need to ask yourself this short series of "why" questions every time you enter an emotional eating episode and follow your own thoughts and observations until you discover this state of powerlessness.
The next step will be to help you prove to yourself that you are NOT powerless.
That's the secret change formula we use throughout the ShrinkYourself ... Continue
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