The holidays are a time to celebrate love and affection. It's a perfect time to explore a new relationship, have fun with someone you love, or just appreciate the important person in your life. Yet, it can sometimes be stressful trying to figure out the perfect holiday gift for someone you love.
Remember that the cost of a gift is unimportant. What matters is showing someone that he or she is on your mind and that you want to do something nice for them. It isn't how much you spend on your sweetie that counts, it is what you say and how you say it that really matters. Here are a few Love Doctor Tips for your Holiday Gift Giving.
1. Give something. Your partner may tell you that they don't need or want anything for the holidays. You should still get them something. It doesn't have to be extravagant or big, but you still want to buy them a holiday gift. A dozen roses is always nice, a coupon for breakfast in bed, a favorite DVD series, or tickets to the play your partner has been dying to see for months.
2. Think partner. Take some time to think about what your partner might like as a gift. We often give our partner what we would like or expect for a gift rather than what they like or desire. Look for cues of what they like regarding music, books, wine, or art. You also can ask them for gift ideas. A little planning and thought can go a long way!
3. Highlight special memory. One way to create a successful holiday gift is to highlight something special in your past. Pull out your memories instead of your wallet. What was the music you listened to on your first date? Are there special events that you have shared recently? Finding a way to commemorate that time or event is the fun part. Put a photo in a frame. Revisit the past. Book a weekend trip for next month. It is the memory that you trigger in the gift that's important.
4. Surprise. Use the element of surprise. Most of us have an expectation of when, where and how we'll receive our holiday gift. Surprising your partner is an inexpensive way to add excitement. You can even spread your surprise out over a number of days.
5. Remind them of you. Give a gift that will remind your partner of you. A special piece of jewelry, a piece of art, or a CD from your favorite artist. The goal here is that when your partner wears or listens to the gift, they will think of you, and only you!
Dr. Terri Orbuch (Ph.D.), aka "The Love Doctor," is a psychologist, Oakland University professor, and research professor at The University of Michigan. She is also the host of The Love Doctor Talk Radio Program on the VoiceAmerica network. Her Love Doctor Relationship Segments are aired weekly on Fox TV-Detroit. For more information, check out www.drterrithelovedoctor.com.