A support system is an invaluable tool to any goals, including weight loss. With me is a significant other who functions as my cheerleader as I work through the course and a loving partner no matter what the scale says.
This is not first time at the rodeo. I've attempted to lose weight and get fit with mixed results. For the longest, I had an abusive person as a partner. When I lose a visible inch or two, it was met with a reprimand, "You should not have gotten that big to begin with." The impact of those words are devastating. He didn't motivate but depressed me even more, and perhaps facilitated my behavior of seeking comfort in food.
If you need to lose a significant amount of weight, as I do, lose people around you that bring you down. Like most struggles, weight loss is mental. Negative relationships distract. They waste energy.
For me, my partner's positive participation in my weight loss propels me forward. I enjoy sending him photos because he delights in visible changes in my body. He is traveling for work and I was about 15 pounds heavier when we last saw each other. He is excited to make future workout plans together. He is my mirror, validating the changes I see and feel in myself. I look forward to being with him and that excitment pushes me to go for my run when I would otherwise choose to take a break.
I don' know how much I weigh as I vow to stop obsessing about what the scale says. I fit in smaller clothes. I love taking photos of my body. In five days, I will be going on a big hike so I plan to do a lot of cardio leading to it. I will weigh myself before going on that hike and then after.
I am about 35 pounds away from a solidly good place, weight-wise. It sounds overwhelming but reachable unlike the 50 pounds where I started.