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by Bob Livingstone LCSW

We all experience emotional pain in our lives. Someone close to us will eventually die. A friend or lover will betray us. We will lose our jobs or not get the one we really wanted. Many of us have been victims of physical, emotional and/sexual abuse. We experience racism, sexism and other forms of hatred. Many of us have difficulties with processing these issues.

Handle Emotional PainOnce I was conducting my class on healing emotional pain at the San Francisco County Jail when one of the women asked, "Why has it been so difficult for me to face my emotional pain?" Most of the other women in the group then asked follow-up questions in that same vein. I pondered this issue for a while. I realized that that this is indeed the first question one needs to explore when wondering what events have caused internal wounds, hurts or traumas. If you cannot look at your pain, then you can never resolve it. Why, then is it so hard to look at it?

The 5 Roadblocks

We are reluctant to face our emotional pain because:

1. We are afraid that if we look at what may be uncomfortable now will become terrifying if we open that door to our feelings and memories.

2. We are taught that we are not supposed to spend too much time or dwell on events that have been painful. We believe that we are to "suck it up" and move on rather than wonder how this hurt affects us.

3. We are instructed that looking at our emotional hurt will cause something that is now a nuisance to become an aching, bloody, infected wound that will never heal.

4. We are taught that we are not to burden others with our problems. We are fearful that if we examine our issues too closely, we will become babbling idiots that over tax the ears of our friends and loved ones.

5. We avoid dealing with our emotional pain because we believe that this is a task that is impossible to accomplish.

We can break through these roadblocks by:

1. Discovering the internal faith that you deserve to overcome these wounds. This faith can be religious, spiritual, your place of wisdom or your higher power. Your internal faith is what helps you face troubling times, confusion and loss.

2. Learning that the energy invested in pushing the pain away is not worth the price of becoming physically ill, drug dependent, or devoid of any feelings. This energy can be instead used for recovery, spiritual awakening, self-direction and confidence building activities.

3. Learning that facing emotional pain can be an exciting, joyful and ultimately redemptive journey. You will find joy simply by breaking through long standing grief and pain. You may able to learn to love yourself.

4. Discovering how physical exercise can improve your self-esteem, mood and confidence that will allow you to work through your emotional pain. Exercising will also bring back the playful innocence of a child. It will make you feel and look better. It will increase your organizational abilities and give you a purpose.

5. Learning that while dealing with trauma is indeed painful, you can learn techniques that will teach you how to tolerate the angst that comes up. Those techniques include: learning that the memories of the trauma are about events that took place in the past, not the present and learning to nurture the child within.

Bob Livingstone, author6. Learning that you can find healthy ways to distract yourself from the pain when it becomes too overwhelming. You can focus on what is happening in the present instead. Going for a walk or reading a book are healthy ways to take your mind off the pain.

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@ 6:04pm ET on November 7, 2014
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